I wanted to clear up something that I think may have confused some of you. When I say that I tried to get the Police to help me, I have not, all the time, been writing about one Chief of Police, but FIVE.
Since my return to Maywood in 1991, after losing my job at Exxon Company U.S.A. because of the stalkers – which during the time I worked there was located at 1555 Poydras Street, right across from the Superdome – Maywood, Illinois has had 5 Police Chiefs.
And I have gone to see each and every one of them, with the exception of the current Police Chief, Vladimir Talley. But, on the other hand, I have e-mailed him from time to time.
In my post of yesterday, I wrote about some advice given to me by a Union Steward at Rush. And, I want you to know, I did take his advice. Because, I came to understand that the only reason the Police and Politicians are paying attention to me now, is because I have a voice, through my blogs, that I didn’t have before.
I have, excuse the pun, a bully pulpit from which to express my opinion. Isn’t the internet wonderful! Please allow me to stray from the current topic and encourage you to use your bully pulpit, Your Vote.
I came to accept the fact that all the local Police and Politicians, wanted to do, as my Union Steward pointed out, was to pretend to care about me, pat me on the head like the stupid little no body they thought I was, and then tell me to sit down and shut the f_ _ k up! That won’t happen.
So, now to those five Police Chiefs.
When I came back to Illinois from New Orleans (where I’d fled to get away from the stalkers) I went to see the then Chief of Police in Maywood, whose last name was Delafosse. You can read about that encounter by clicking the link below. He was the one who almost shot me. But in spite of that, his ex-wife, Bobbie Delafosse, and I became very close friends.
Now, what I yelled at him was, “If you can’t find that woman, as loud as she’s screaming out there, then, you need a compass and a flashlight to find your ass.”
Chief Delafosse took exception to that.
He’d been sitting on a desk during our entire conversation looking as though he was sure I was some kind of idiot. But when I yelled the above statement, he jumped off that desk quicker than I’d thought possible and reached for his gun. The young Police officer I’d seen at Church was sitting directly behind me and he jumped to his feet and reached for his gun, too. I looked to my right where a lot of other officers had been sitting and when they saw the Chief reach for his, he never actually pulled it, thank God, they also went for their guns. I decided at that point to leave. I didn’t go back until there was a new Chief of Police.
After Chief Delafosse, came a Chief that was, as I recall, shorter than me, very thin, and kind of nervous. I don’t remember his name. I do remember he tried to help but the Trustees, told him NO. I was there when he’d asked, because I’d just made a speech telling the Trustees that if they continued permitting the stalkers to scream and yell outside my apartment building, that it wouldn’t go well for the village. And, not surprisingly, it hasn’t.
The following excerpt is from Psychology Today
Acting with clear knowledge that a behavior is unacceptable is often accompanied by feelings of guilt. Unlike shame, which can relate to one’s entire self, guilt is associated with a specific behavior and by itself is not likely to be associated with psychological distress such as depression or posttraumatic stress disorder. As with other forms of punishment, aversive methods are generally less effective than positive approaches. It is more important to reward and praise desirable behaviors than to react negatively to unwanted ones. Encouraging a person’s ability to enjoy self-affirmation and self-pride will help them internalize healthy attributes and to become a person deserving of admiration. Before reacting to someone who has annoyed or offended you, remember that the specific incident provoking your disapproval may fade in memory or significance, while the shame they feel may endure as part of who they become. Shame doesn’t motivate prosocial behaviors; it fuels social withdrawal and low self-esteem. Wouldn’t you rather nurture the kind of person you would enjoy sharing a relationship.
After him, came a woman. And she – not surprising, given the culture that existed at the time in the Maywood Police Department, didn’t last long enough for me to learn her name.
After her, came Chief of Police Tim Curry. His son, by one of the women stalking me (at least that’s what I was told by some people angry over the situation happening in our Church told me. Now, I don’t know if that was true or not, but, yes, I did have a little boy in my Sunday School class with the last name of Curry). That was one of the reasons I stopped teaching Sunday School.
Then, after Chief Curry, came Vladimir Talley, who, I must admit has been the most effective Chief of Police since I’ve been back in Maywood.
But my thing with Talley is this. I love fashion. And then, there’s Vogue’s Andre Leon Talley. And, adding to that, there is my dear friend Vladimir Ivonovich, known to the world as Vladimir Putin. Coincidence or stacked deck? The jury is still out on that one.
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