Surviving R. Kelly

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Everyone is s-o-o-o shocked by the, ‘Surviving R. Kelly’ documentary.  I’m not!  Because I know, from personal experience and after paying close attention to what passes for politics in Chicago and its surrounding suburbs, that this is Continue reading

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My Dream Team for President and Vice President

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My  dream team for President and Vice President are:

           Hillary Clinton and Corey Booker.

Americans, you want a wall, make it Hillary Clinton and not a shrine to Donald Trump built on the backs of our federal workers and soldiers.

 

                         #HillaryistheWall

 

By
Eliza D. Ankum
Author of
Flight 404 – A Novel of Aviation Disaster
Ruby Sanders (The Ruby and Jared Saga Book 1)
Jared Anderson (The Ruby and Jared Saga Book 2)
Ruby and Jared (The Ruby and Jared saga Book 3)
OneThreeThirteen – A Presidential Agent Novel Series Book 1
The Hunt For Red November – A Presidential Agent Novel Series Book 2
Dancing With The Fat Woman
Thou Shalt Eat Dust – A Second Chance Love Story

https://eleanorgrunsback.wordpress.com

A Woman’s Voice: A Little Book of Poems
STALKED! By Voices

https://mystalkingblog.wordpress.com

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#MeToo in 2019

Two years ago, right before Thanksgiving, I wrote the following post, My Crime Victim Impact Statement Part 1, that set off a firestorm known as the #MeToo movement.  And I never in a million years anticipated what ensued.

And I know you and the entire world have been told it was Tarana Burke, and I’m OK with that because she’s been quietly doing the work for decades. And she has an organization that as the men would say, ‘has boots on the ground’.

But, when I wrote that post, all I was thinking about at the time was the consequences of being stalked and publically humiliated for so many years.  And about the consequences of not being taken seriously when I complained to the Police because I’m a woman and a nobody.   I got that message loud and clear, by the way.

I also knew that I was tired of that old world view that if something bad happens to you as a woman it’s your fault for being loose, being in the wrong place with the wrong person, wearing the wrong thing, saying the wrong thing, or daring to have a sex life.  I was just tired of it.  And I wanted to rail against it.  And I did.

Lately, however, I have been listening to all of the criticism about the movement and about how it’s unfair to bring up old crimes that a man committed when he has repented and lived a good life.  About how women are using #MeToo as a means of getting rid of men in high positions,   About how men were afraid of being men for fear of being accused.

And so, I decided, yeah, I decided to hold back and not write another post like the one above.  I decided to think about the men, quaking in fear of being outed for having assaulted a woman, either physically, spiritually, or emotionally.  Or having had committed extortion with sex as the payment.  I thought about the men and the women in their lives shaken by the knowledge that the men they love and are married to are a whole different person when he’s out in the world by himself.  And how devastating that fact is.  I thought about them and I held back.

And then, a few weeks ago, I had a dream wherein God asked me, “Where do you stand?”

In the dream, I found myself walking through a crowd of women trying to mingle in amongst a crowd of women of all sizes and colors looking back at a fierce God whose only word to me was, “See.”

Because, these women will forever carry that assault, whether it be physical, spiritual, or emotionally, in their bodies, minds, and spirits.  And in one way or another, it will be passed on to their boyfriends, husbands, children, or other relatives.   So, I’m going to stand with those women and continue to work diligently for the #MeToo movement.

https://mystalkingblog.wordpress.com/2016/11/24/crime-victim-impact-statement-part-1/

https://mystalkingblog.wordpress.com/2016/11/30/crime-victim-impact-statement-part-2/

https://mystalkingblog.wordpress.com/2017/03/13/crime-victim-impact-statement-part-3/

By
Eliza D. Ankum
Author of
Flight 404 – A Novel of Aviation Disaster
Ruby Sanders (The Ruby and Jared Saga Book 1)
Jared Anderson (The Ruby and Jared Saga Book 2)
Ruby and Jared (The Ruby and Jared saga Book 3)
OneThreeThirteen – A Presidential Agent Novel Series Book 1
The Hunt For Red November – A Presidential Agent Novel Series Book 2
Dancing With The Fat Woman
Thou Shalt Eat Dust – A Second Chance Love Story

https://eleanorgrunsback.wordpress.com

A Woman’s Voice: A Little Book of Poems
STALKED! By Voices

https://mystalkingblog.wordpress.com

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/s/Eliza+Ankum?_requestid=300012

https://www.kobo.com/us/en/search?Query=Eliza+Ankum

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The View, #MeToo, and Kevin Hart

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I am going to take a rare exception to something I heard on The View yesterday.

One of the women said something to the effect that, “The #MeToo Movement was not giving those men accused a chance to change’.   I take exception to that because most people don’t change things that are working for them.  And that goes double and even triple for sexual predators.

And that predatory behavior was working for Harvey Weinstein, Bill Cosby, and Dr. Nasser.  .   Their predatory behavior was working so well for them that they took it to their offices, homes, and medical practices.  And it is still working for the family stalking me!

I’d like for the young woman who said that to stop for a moment and think about what her daughter would have faced, in the future, if we, the women of the  #MeToo Movement had not spoken up.

She, herself is in journalism and imagine what would have happened to her daughter if her daughter had applied for an apprenticeship at FOX, NBC, or CBS and that culture of sexual harassment had not been stopped.

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P.S.  My stalkers are lesbians and that has not made me homophobic.

I was all set to give Kevin Hart the benefit of the doubt, thinking it was something he did to get noticed, until I read them.  I was shocked.   But, by calling him out, I’m willing to bet he wouldn’t be doing any more tweets like those.

By
Eliza D. Ankum
Author of
Flight 404 – A Novel of Aviation Disaster
Ruby Sanders (The Ruby and Jared Saga Book 1)
Jared Anderson (The Ruby and Jared Saga Book 2)
Ruby and Jared (The Ruby and Jared saga Book 3)
OneThreeThirteen – A Presidential Agent Novel Series Book 1
The Hunt For Red November – A Presidential Agent Novel Series Book 2
Dancing With The Fat Woman
Thou Shalt Eat Dust – A Second Chance Love Story

https://eleanorgrunsback.wordpress.com

A Woman’s Voice: A Little Book of Poems
STALKED! By Voices

https://mystalkingblog.wordpress.com

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/s/Eliza+Ankum?_requestid=300012

https://www.kobo.com/us/en/search?Query=Eliza+Ankum

https://www.amazon.com/Eliza-D.-Ankum/e/B00I33MKPO/ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1?qid=1494203217&sr=1-1

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A Story Of Five Police Chiefs

I wanted to clear up something that I think may have confused some of you.  When I say that I tried to get the Police to help me, I have not, all the time, been writing about one Chief of Police, but FIVE.

Since my return to Maywood in 1991, after losing my job at Exxon Company U.S.A. because of the stalkers – which during the time I worked there was located at 1555 Poydras Street, right across from the Superdome – Maywood, Illinois has had 5 Police Chiefs.

https://stalkedbyvoices.wordpress.com/2011/12/04/my-stalking-blog-work/

https://stalkedbyvoices.wordpress.com/2013/06/14/my-stalking-blog-good-morning-america/

And I have gone to see each and every one of them, with the exception of the current Police Chief, Vladimir Talley.  But, on the other hand, I have e-mailed him from time to time.

In my post of yesterday, I wrote about some advice given to me by a Union Steward at Rush.  And, I want you to know, I did take his advice.  Because, I came to understand that the only reason the Police and Politicians are paying attention to me now, is because I have a voice, through my blogs, that I didn’t have before.

https://stalkedbyvoices.wordpress.com  and  https://mystalkingblog.wordpress.com

I have, excuse the pun, a bully pulpit from which to express my opinion.  Isn’t the internet wonderful!   Please allow me to stray from the current topic and encourage you to use your bully pulpit, Your Vote.

I came to accept the fact that all the local Police and Politicians, wanted to do, as my Union Steward pointed out, was to pretend to care about me, pat me on the head like the stupid little no body they thought I was, and then tell me to sit down and shut the f_ _ k up!   That won’t happen.

So, now to those five Police Chiefs.

When I came back to Illinois from New Orleans (where I’d fled to get away from the stalkers) I went to see the then Chief of Police in Maywood, whose last name was Delafosse.  You can read about that encounter by clicking the link below.  He was the one who almost shot me.  But in spite of that, his ex-wife, Bobbie Delafosse, and I became very close friends.

https://stalkedbyvoices.wordpress.com/2013/03/26/stalked-by-voices-chapter-102/

Now, what I yelled at him was, “If you can’t find that woman, as loud as she’s screaming out there, then, you need a compass and a flashlight to find your ass.”

Chief Delafosse took exception to that.

He’d been sitting on a desk during our entire conversation looking as though he was sure I was some kind of idiot.  But when I yelled the above statement, he jumped off that desk quicker than I’d thought possible and reached for his gun.  The young Police officer I’d seen at Church was sitting directly behind me and he jumped to his feet and reached for his gun, too.  I looked to my right where a lot of other officers had been sitting and when they saw the Chief reach for his, he never actually pulled it, thank God, they also went for their guns.   I decided at that point to leave.  I didn’t go back until there was a new Chief of Police.

After Chief Delafosse, came a Chief that was, as I recall, shorter than me, very thin, and kind of nervous.  I don’t remember his name.  I do remember he tried to help but the Trustees, told him NO.  I was there when he’d asked, because I’d just made a speech telling the Trustees that if they continued permitting the stalkers to scream and yell outside my apartment building, that it wouldn’t go well for the village.  And, not surprisingly, it hasn’t.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Public_humiliation

The following excerpt is from Psychology Today

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/longing-nostalgia/201705/why-shaming-doesnt-work

Acting with clear knowledge that a behavior is unacceptable is often accompanied by feelings of guilt.  Unlike shame, which can relate to one’s entire self, guilt is associated with a specific behavior and by itself is not likely to be associated with psychological distress such as depression or posttraumatic stress disorder.  As with other forms of punishment, aversive methods are generally less effective than positive approaches.  It is more important to reward and praise desirable behaviors than to react negatively to unwanted ones.  Encouraging a person’s ability to enjoy self-affirmation and self-pride will help them internalize healthy attributes and to become a person deserving of admiration.  Before reacting to someone who has annoyed or offended you, remember that the specific incident provoking your disapproval may fade in memory or significance, while the shame they feel may endure as part of who they become.  Shame doesn’t motivate prosocial behaviors; it fuels social withdrawal and low self-esteem.  Wouldn’t you rather nurture the kind of person you would enjoy sharing a relationship.

After him, came a woman.  And she – not surprising, given the culture that existed at the time in the Maywood Police Department, didn’t last long enough for me to learn her name.

https://mystalkingblog.wordpress.com/2015/01/01/what-i-wouldnt-say-before-ill-say-now/

After her, came Chief of Police Tim Curry.  His son, by one of the women stalking me (at least that’s what I was told by some people angry over the situation happening in our Church told me.  Now, I don’t know if that was true or not, but, yes, I did have a little boy in my Sunday School class with the last name of Curry).  That was one of the reasons I stopped teaching Sunday School.

https://stalkedbyvoices.wordpress.com/2012/08/20/my-stalking-blog-how-it-was-before-sensitivity-training/

https://stalkedbyvoices.wordpress.com/2012/04/07/my-stalking-blog-i-apologize/

Then, after Chief Curry, came Vladimir Talley, who, I must admit has been the most effective Chief of Police since I’ve been back in Maywood.

But my thing with Talley is this.  I love fashion.  And then, there’s Vogue’s  Andre Leon Talley.  And, adding to that, there is my dear friend Vladimir Ivonovich, known to the world as Vladimir Putin.   Coincidence or stacked deck?  The jury is still out on that one.

Maywood Tip Line

Non-Emergency:
Callers are not required to give personal information.
If you wish to place an anonymous call, dial the non-emergency number, then *67.

708-450-4472  *67

By
Eliza D. Ankum
Author of

https://eleanorgrunsback.wordpress.com

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 Government Contact emails below:

Kim Foxx Cook County State’s Attorney
statesattorney@cookcountyil.gov

Senator Dick Durbin
https://www.durbin.senate.gov/contact/email

Congressman Danny K. Davis
https://davis.house.gov/email-me/

Illinois State Representative Emanuel ‘Chris’ Welch
http://www.emanuelchriswelch.com/contact.htm

Illinois State Senator Kimberly Lightford
http://www.senatorlightford.com/contact-us

Maywood Mayor Edwenna Perkins
http://www.maywood-il.org/Contact-Us.aspx

Maywood Police Chief Vladmir Talley
vtalley@maywoodpolice-il.org

 

 

Judge Kavanaugh

As I sit here listening to Judge Kavanaugh, I readily understand why it is so difficult to prosecute sex cases.

He, also, sounds credible, albeit a bit anal retentive with those calendars. But his having undergone, as he says, six separate FBI background checks makes him even more believable.

I would never want someone who has attempted to rape a young girl to go unpunished, but I ABSOLUTELY DO NOT WANT the #MeToo Movement to be used as a weapon to destroy an innocent man thus derailing it.

However, I hate that statement he keeps using, “I never had sexual intercourse with … “ It sounds too much like Bill Clinton who we ALL know actually did.

But, even with that I think Judge Kavanaugh will be appointed to the Supreme Court.

So, Democrats please don’t sit on your hands, as you’ve been doing and wait until the last minute to get into the race. And by that, I mean Trump will definitely use this failure against you. Pick a presidential candidate and start campaigning NOW!!!

By
Eliza D. Ankum

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Government Contact emails below:

Kim Foxx Cook County State’s Attorney
statesattorney@cookcountyil.gov

Senator Dick Durbin
https://www.durbin.senate.gov/contact/email

Congressman Danny K. Davis
https://davis.house.gov/email-me/

Illinois State Representative Emanuel ‘Chris’ Welch
http://www.emanuelchriswelch.com/contact.htm

Illinois State Senator Kimberly Lightford
http://www.senatorlightford.com/contact-us

Maywood Mayor Edwenna Perkins
http://www.maywood-il.org/Contact-Us.aspx

Maywood Police Chief Vladmir Talley
vtalley@maywoodpolice-il.org